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Dear “Dochas82”

Dear “Dochas82”, some guy I just met, who once went by the Twitter Handle “Glittery Mob Neelix,” I liked that, by the way. 🙂 I saw your disappointment in the Tony Jones/Rachel Held Evans fiasco. I saw how you vowed to delete your blog, and vowed never again try to make money off of Christian

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“Beautiful, Beautiful” (The Housewife Song)

I confess, I’m a HORRIBLE housekeeper. Ok? Ok. 🙂 But that didn’t keep me from trying. For years, and years, and years, I tried to be a perfect housewife, before realizing that it’s just not my gift.  I’m a captain, not a house cleaner. Here’s my little parody demo, recorded with a smart phone (that

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John Piper, Rape, Seduction, and Sin-Leveling.

John Piper tweeted, and then unceremoniously deleted, the following comment: “The Bible says there are men who rape (Genesis 34:2) and women who seduce (Genesis 39:7). United in sin, distinct in form.” Some old and new friends of mine on social media have asked variations of: “Why is this such a big deal? Potiphar’s wife

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The Advice My Church Gave to an Abused Woman, Part 2

Read Part 1 here. I arrived at the event, praying for wisdom, for Betty, and for her family. Amy, Cathy, and a couple of other friends were all there. After we’d all gotten our kids into a reasonable holding pattern, I asked Betty about her new job.  It sounded great–like a really, really good job,

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The Advice an Abused Woman Received At My Church. Part 1

Recently, I wondered if I was doing the right thing in blogging about Spiritual Abuse and gender roles in the church. After all, don’t I need to keep my eyes on Jesus, not on the bad experiences? Isn’t this distracting from the real mission of the Church?  Is this distracting from my own calling as

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From Complementarian to Captain Janeway

As a young, late-teens, early-twenty-something Christian, I heard sermons on gender roles over and over again. I read several books on gender, on marriage, and on Godly womanhood. I read the Joshua Harris “courtship” books, and my future husband and I used them as a model for our own relationship. One thread was woven throughout

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